Let me share with you another story from Shiva’s life.Sati was Shiva’s first wife, she married Shiva after a lot of prayer and against her father’s wishes. This left negative emotions in Daksha’s (Sati’s father) heart.
Later, Daksha organized a grand yagna (yagna is “a holy sacrifice that serves penance to the universe’s divinities) to which all the Gods were invited, with the exception of Sati and Shiva. Wanting to visit her parents, relatives and childhood friends, Sati sought to rationalize this omission.
She reasoned within herself that her parents had neglected to make a formal invitation to them only because, as family, such formality was unnecessary. Certainly, she needed no invitation to visit her own mother and decided to go anyway. Shiva dissuaded her, but Sati’s has made up her mind. On seeing her persistence and desire to visit her family, he provided her all his ganas(ganas are followers or supporters who used to stay with Shiva) to escort her.
Sati was received coldly by her father. Soon, they were in the midst of a heated argument about the virtues (and alleged lack thereof) of Shiva. Every passing moment made it clearer to Sati that her father was entirely incapable of appreciating the many excellent qualities of her husband. The realization then came to Sati that this abuse was being heaped on Shiva only because he had wed her and that she was the cause of this dishonor to her husband. She was consumed by rage against her father and loathing for his mentality.
Calling up a prayer in which she asked that she may, in some future birth, be born the daughter of a father whom she could respect, Sati invoked her yogic powers and immolated herself.
Shiva sensed this catastrophe, and his rage was thunderous. He created Virabhadra and Bhadrakāli, two ferocious creatures who wreaked havoc and mayhem on the scene of the horrific incident. Nearly all those present were indiscriminately felled overnight. Daksha himself was decapitated.
Vishnu was asked to help Shiva detach himself from Sati, as the inability to do so would have lead to the destruction of the world. He achieved detachment.
The moral of the story is, You can destroy YOUR world in case you are not able to detach yourself when need be, from the external world, including your loved ones.
I do understand that detaching yourself can be difficult, specially when it concerns your loved ones. Let me share a quick exercise with you that might help you.
The idea of detaching yourself is to be able to become an observer, instead of being a participant.
Next time when you are overwhelmed, do this.
I want you to breathe in and say the words “Om Namah Shivaya” (in your head) and breathe out saying your name.
While breathing out imagine yourself breathing out your overwhelming sense of self captivity, which Shiva has helped remove from your system.
Now, I want you to step outside of yourself and observe the world around you.
Take another minute and just look at all the wonderful people around you, as well as all the great things around you, and be grateful for all the abundance in your life. Now let your higher self tell you what you need to do next so that your overwhelming sense of self captivity does not take you over again.
Now close your eyes again, breathe in Shiva’s name and breathe out saying your name.
You will already feel less overwhelmed and more relaxed. You most likely would have found a solution to deal with your circumstances as well.
I hope this technique works for you and don’t forget to find more techniques in The Shiva Experience program! ☺
Dr. Nilima Chitgopekar
The Shiva Experience